Finding Your Personal Style

Finding or refining your personal style can be quite the predicament; I mean... I'll be the first to admit that on a few occasions now, I have strolled up to my clothing rail, had a bit of a rummage through what would typically be slogan t-shirts, hoodies or leggings... then frustratingly flung my arms above my head in distaste, because I simply don't have anything to wear today.

For as long as I can remember, my wardrobe has been dominated with dark and dreary clothing - the saying 'On Wednesday's we wear black', would occur 7 days a week, 365 days a year in my house. Because when I tell you that 99% of what I owned whether it was socks, trousers, t-shirts or coats was black, I literally mean it and it wasn't for want of trying to change. In my mind I knew what I was most comfortable in and for me that's where I really struggled.

In April, I enlisted in the help of Joanne Lyttle from Topshop in Belfast. Topshop Personal Shopping is a premium, complimentary service available at an array of stores across the United Kingdom. They cover appointments such as; The Essentials, The Big Event or in this case The Wardrobe Overhaul. I was really nervous about what Joanne would pick for me, but within 10-15 minutes she rocked up with a rail of eye-catching outfits for me to try on, all based on the information I had provided when booking but also through a quick introduction on arrival.

Looking back now, I'm really pleased that I went to a stylist and asked for help. It's given me a real boost and I'm now invested in the clothes that I wear, which is why I'm so keen to talk about my experience and share my advice on finding your personal style.

In the words of Francisca Rockey - you're blossoming.

1. Ask For Help -
When you're feeling under the weather, you go and you see a doctor. When you want to capture the perfect family photograph, you go to a professional photographer. So why should your style be any different? Don't be afraid to ask for help, research professional stylists in your area or businesses who provide a tailored shopping experience. You won't regret it. 

2. Seek Inspiration -
Jot down the names of some of your favourite style icons and do a bit of research. I use Pinterest and  Instagram to seek inspiration, especially when it comes to date night. Maybe you gravitate towards Gigi Hadid's minimal, yet clean cut look, with a dose of Lauren Conrad's femininity. Pulling different inspiration from several sources is a really good way of figuring out what you like and what you dislike. Besides testing outfits in store.

3. Spring Clean - 
Take a long, hard look at your wardrobe and the pieces you already own. Toss what you haven't worn in the last 12 months out (or donate it to charity) and a start afresh. This way you can finally begin to rebuild and refine your wardrobe with a style that truly reflects where you are in life and in your career. Trust your gut and just be brutal - the process will go a lot faster this way. I love a good spring clean and find it therapeutic when I can give my wardrobe a cleanse to.

4. Accessorize - 
Whilst working with Joanne, she explained to me that accessories are without a doubt, one of the easiest ways to really pull an outfit together, regardless of the style that you are trying to achieve. You can update an outfit with a belt, a necklace, a watch or even some funky footwear, like a pair of buckled leather boots. There are so many ways you can dress an outfit, but it's really all down to personal preference.

5. Be Authentic -
Something that makes you feel confident, will never go out of style. However... it's really important when developing your person style, that you stay true to yourself. You should experiment with patterns, textures, accessories and shoes. It all boils down to feeling good in your own skin - so your style should really reflect and celebrate you, your life, your individuality and your personality. Own your style and use it as a means of expressing who and what you want to be.

What advice would you give to someone who is struggling with their personal style? 


  1. So true about how you would go to the doctors for help so why not a personal shopper for clothing and style help. My wardrobe is pretty much all black all the time too, I wouldn’t know where to start with colour.

    1. If you need help with something, it's only natural that you would go and ask for advice. So, I don't know why I didn't ask sooner to be fair haha! A lot of my clothes are still dark, but everytime I shop now I try to buy at-least one bold t-shirt to make up for it x

  2. I've never really thought about my personal style or even looking into a personal shopper! That is such a good idea! I have a pretty boring style and I always forget to accessorise! I really need to start remembering too because damn do I have a tonne of earrings I never wear!
    Neve x |

    1. Honestly, I booked it on a bit of a whim. I was growing tired of looking at the same dreary clothes and felt like I needed a break to do some proper retail therapy. I never expected to come away with anything at the time, but Joanne was able to provide me with a few staple pieces that I can dress up with practically anything! I'm still finding my own style at the minute, but I'm really enjoying just playing around with colours - although I to, could accessorize a little more x

  3. I still have no idea what my personal style is... I sort of wear what I like and don't wear what I don't like! I'd love to have a definitive style that people would recognise as my own!

    Becca //

    1. For me; it's been a bit of gradual process. In a sense that I now know what I like to wear, but I'm not afraid to try something out of comfort zone. I wouldn't say that I have a definitive style either, although my go-to outfits always seem to be slogan-tee's and jeans haha! x

  4. I'm at such a loss with my own personal style at the moment so this was really helpful! I've never really thought about going to a personal shopper but it may be time to enlist the help of a professional!

    Chloe x

    1. I know the feeling - that's exactly how I felt and still do from time to time. But now that I've worked with and spoken to a professional, I believe that my personal style is really starting to take shape x