3 Realistic Ways To Get Your Mojo Back


Let's be pragmatic here; it's been a while since I've sat down and pressed publish on She In The Know, in-fact I'd go as far as to suggest that it's probably been a few weeks, if not months at this rate. But lately I've been struggling, struggling to get out of this slump that has affected every ounce of my personal life, both online and offline. Essentially, it's left me feeling desperate not to let what motivation I have left... slip from my very fingertips. I mean, I already know my mojo has taken a holiday without me, but it's high time I got back on that metaphorical horse and reined it in.

It's quite ironic really, how before I even attempted to write this post, I actually took some time out to Google 'What to do when you've lost your mojo'. Don't be surprised when I tell you my research wasn't overly successful. I didn't find my answer, nor was I met with anything remotely inspiring on the topic, but Forbes was able reinforce the fact that I apparently needed to 'disconnect' and 'set goals'. Yes, those were both plausible points... but I already knew how to do all of the above and why I needed to do those steps, so realistically I learnt nothing new today and Forbes just reiterated what I had actually done in terms of finding my mojo again.

That's when I started to really mull things over. In this very moment in time, I know when and how I lost my mojo. I lost my mojo at work, when I was ostracized for something that I didn't do, something petty that I didn't do and that was a real eye opener for me, a realization as such as to where I stood and where the company stood. Behold; for the first time in months... it felt as though I'd flung the curtains back and something in me had shifted. Granted I went from the girl brimming with ideas and posts I could conjure up to suit my fabulous role as a sales assistant, to someone who would shy away and stay tight lipped both at work and at meetings, but whatever snapped... meant that the slump I was experiencing, wasn't going to last forever and sure enough it hasn't - I wouldn't be sitting here otherwise. Don't get me wrong, I do love my position in terms of selling and working with new people, it drives me. But I absolutely dread getting up in the mornings to stand in silence for hours upon hours, unless a customer swings the shop door open and walks through it. It's exhausting, mentally and physically.

I'm still hurting, I still feel like I've been kicked in the teeth and I do believe I have lost some of my confidence, but the flame I have is still burning, just maybe not as brightly as it should be. Nonetheless I will take it in my stride. I'll use this situation and grow from it, I'll learn to do more for me and less for everyone else from here on out and most importantly, I'll learn to follow my interests and my passions such as photography - which I'll go into more depth about at a later date.

I will not let this get the better of me any longer, I am not going to let what happened consume my life another second and I definitely won't let it spoil my blog or my aspirations to be a photographer. This may have been quite a lengthy hiatus, but it's one that's coming to a end. It's time to Ctrl, Alt and Delete - it's time to find my fire again.

Here is where I draw the line in the sand. This is my start. If you've managed to read the last 640 words, then hats off to you my friend, but it's time for me to snap out of this funk and get back on the saddle. Here's;

3 Realistic Ways To Get Your Mojo Back

1. Just Fucking Let Go - 
I think this rather punchy one-liner pretty much speaks for itself. Stop reeling with self-doubt and self-recrimination that you could have been so foolish to trust or to care. It can feel a lot like self-preservation to hold onto that anger, but believe me when I say this... just fucking let go. Sometimes shitty things happen and you've just got to figure out how to move past it. Write a letter and scrunch it up, just stop dwelling on something that you literally can't do anything about anymore. What's done is done and whether you've lost your spark, your inspiration or you're just feeling a bit out of sorts this weekend, please by all means... take this as your sign to get out of bed and just do something. Use it to write a blog post, use it to inspire change.

2. Time Out - 
Let's picture the scene; you've spent the entirety of a week staring blankly at your word document and three times as long on this particular blog post as you normally ever would. Before you know it, it's time to call it quits, switch everything off and crawl into bed. The only thing you've manged to achieve today is frustration. Frustration that the time has whizzed by and all you did was watch YouTube videos and blink, while you sip your lukewarm tea from an over-sized mug that says 'seize the day'. You think you're a failure, but realistically you aren't. You just need to go away and get some head-space - it's time to take time out. Go for a walk, do some retail therapy, watch every single episode of Homes Under the Hammer, have the biggest glass of wine and chug the entire bottle if necessary. Tomorrow is a new day.

3. Bitch It Out -
Everyone loves a bitching session; frankly they'd be lying if they said they didn't. Vent your frustrations and just bitch it out. Hell, I'm in a group chat with 15 of the most amazing women I have ever met and we all have our moments, moments where someone's yanked our chain, moments where we're pissed off with no real excuse, moments where someone's said something online that needs to be discussed asap. Bitching it out is a really good way of getting things off your chest, alongside obviously having a brew, a whole packet of chocolate digestives and a proper natter with your parents, your best friends or your partner.

How are you going to get your mojo back this week?

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  1. Yess!! So proud of you and so glad to see you back!! LOVE the joke police reference too, always here for ya whenever 💕

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    1. Thank you Emilia, it feels good to be back and I absolutely had to get that in there haha! Love you loads girl x

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  2. I’m so glad you are getting your mojo back lovely, I definitely agree that taking a bit of time out for some relaxation and retail therapy really does help out physical and psychological mindsets :) You can do it girl!

    Emma | www.lifeofemmax.co.uk

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    1. Thank you Emma, it felt a bit like it was never going to come back! But I 100% agree, you know all about the personal shopping, it really boosted my confidence. Love you loads x

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  3. Great post Rebecca! I like that your tips to getting your mojo back are realistic, letting things go and bitching it out are usually the ways I get myself back into my mojo too. This week, I am going to get myself back into the mojo by doing little acts of self care, washing my hair (more than a week overdue) and painting my nails, may only be little things but I know I’ll feel instantly better and ready to get back into my stride once I’ve done them

    Fran | www.franciscarockey.co.uk

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    1. Thank you Francisca! It just feels more 'me' this way, nothing beats a bitching session though - even if things are hard to let go of for a while, it's achievable. I love those little acts of self-care the most, they probably have the biggest impact. Let's kick next weeks butt, love you gal! x

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  4. We're all our own worst critics and it's often ourselves that makes us feel worse about not being good enough. I had this slump recently but more often it's important to have a break to acknowledge the slump to perk yourself back up! Great post and some great tips! You got this!!

    www.thebeautytype.com

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    1. We really are our own worst critics aren't we? I'm totally guilty of putting myself down more often than building myself up, but I think this break was exactly what I needed and I'm glad that I took time away to really get my head screwed back on. Thank you so much Lisa, you're a gem! x

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  5. This is fantastic! Love your writing.

    Ruth | www.ruthinrevolt.com

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  6. Loving this as someone who definitely falls victim too often to losing their mojo. Great post!

    Sophia
    sophiacarey.blogspot.co.uk / sophiacarey.co.uk

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    1. I think we all go through those little fazes, I know I do anyway! I'm really glad you liked this post, I hope you have a fab week Sophia x

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  7. Love this post boo. And love you too! So proud of you for getting your mojo back and always here for you no matter what ❤️

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    1. Thank you so much Steph! You're the best, I'll always be here for you to x

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  8. Great points. I completely agree with point two and actually wrote a post about it. I was feeling very guilty about taking time out, but I think it has really done me good.

    Lauren xx - bylaurenjane

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    1. Thank you Lauren! I think it's only natural to feel guilty about taking time out, especially if it's something you genuinely care about/enjoy. I know it did me the world good having that break, so I'm glad it's done the same for you x

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