Monday, 16 October 2017 / Northern Ireland, UK

6 Life Skills I Want To Master In My Twenties


Since turning twenty-one last month, it's become apparent that the future is literally all I have been able to think about. It's quite funny how deceiving a twelve year old's mind can be; because I can recall all those conversations about how I'd have went to University by now, graduated, landed my dream job, be in a long-term relationship and possibly even started looking into purchasing my first home before the mere age of twenty-two. Truth be told, I haven't done any of these things yet and I'm not sure when I will, but something tells me that it's okay and what I'm doing right now, is honestly the best thing for me.

Goals take time and that's why I'm hoping to master these six life skills in my twenties.

1. LEARN TO COOK:
I say this lightly, because although Matthew is very much the chef in our relationship... he has the patience of a saint and has been teaching me how to cook the entire summer break. Whether it's a family meal or a Spaghetti Bolognese for lunch, I really want to get a few recipes under my belt, I want to be able to experiment more with my meals, which means saying farewell to my trusty pot noodles and cheese toasties for a while. I'd also love to give baking a whirl.

2. MAKE SMALL TALK:
Raise your hand; if you have ever found yourself aimlessly scrolling through Instagram, Twitter or Facebook during an awkward social situation. I know I am absolutely, 100% guilty - especially now as a student. This is why in my twenties I want to learn how to spark up interesting conversations, I want to learn how to make small talk - you would be surprised what being brave can do for you.

3. HOW TO SELF-CARE:
Self-care is important; anyone who tells you differently doesn't know it yet. This is why in my twenties I want to learn how best to self-care, I want to know which foods will nurture my body and which foods won't. I want to learn the importance of exercising daily and how to come to terms with my imperfections. I want to put some time aside for my mental and physical health and in general I want to know when I should be switching off.

4. LEARN HOW TO DEAL WITH CRITICISM AND REJECTION:
Our twenties are a time for exploration and development; whether it is an academic, personal or career driven choice - it's important that we understand everyone gets rejected and that its okay. Some things will be made to work out and some things just simply won't. I want to learn how to continue moving forward, I want to learn how to deal with criticism and rejection.

5. LEARN HOW TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF & MAKE DECISIONS:
Whether it's at work, out with a friend or even in the comfort of your own home - you should never let anyone make you feel small. I want to learn how to voice my opinions in a controlled manner, on topics I know and feel passionately about. I want to learn how to make important life decisions and how best to stand up for myself.

6. ASPIRATIONS - LEARNING HOW TO HAVE A LONG VIEW:
Writing or essentially blogging - has always been a long-term dream of mine, it's this dream that has continued to push me forward; no matter how many people have told me that it's unrealistic and silly of me to rely on it. Yes, it may take months... possibly even years to get to where I would like to be, but anything is possible if you put your mind to it and that is something that has been instilled in me from childhood. I need to remind myself more that being in my twenties isn't a race and by developing a long view I'll have the ability to see beyond the immediate set-backs and see them more as small detours or humps along the way.

What life skills do you want to master in your twenties?
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  1. I love this idea of listing all the things you want to do! I would love to be able to cook more too! xx

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    1. I'm glad you liked it Tamzin! My boyfriend is trying to teach me how to cook at the moment x

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  2. Learning to cook for yourself is SO important. I moved out when I was eighteen and it meant I had to learn to cook for myself. It took me a while to figure out (including accidentally setting off an explosion in my kitchen... but that's another story) but it was so worth it in the end. It's a valuable skill so I think it's rad that it's your #1 on this list!

    - Shannon | www.goingwithhappy.com

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    1. I couldn't agree with you more Shannon! My boyfriend has been teaching me how to cook; in the hopes that I'll eventually stop using ready-meals haha! But yes, it really is a valuable tool especially for someone in their early twenties x

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  3. I really like your list. All of these life skills are so important.

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    1. Thank you Erika! I'm glad you agree with me x

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