Friday, 30 June 2017

4 Strategies That Will Help You Find Balance

If you managed to read my post on 'Where I've Been, Blogging & More', then you'll understand my persistence on the topics of 'Becoming A Go-Getter', 'Songs To Keep You Motivated This June' and now 'Strategies That Will Help You Find Balance'. Let me explain; blogging is something I have been thoroughly enjoying, but unfortunately at times I was finding the process a bit overwhelming. I was making mistakes, I wasn't concentrating and I felt like I was just simply writing for the sake of writing. I guess you could say I wasn't being my true self and that's why I'm putting strategies in place to get me back on track. I'm finally finding balance.

So, with that being said - here are 4 Strategies That Will Help You Find Balance this incoming month;

Step One: Cut The Crap
It's about time we started prioritizing ourselves and prioritizing self-care so we can feel balanced and able to handle the pressure that comes with juggling a social life, a hobby or perhaps even employment, alongside study. Let's cut the crap - cut the negative self-talk and the self-deprecation out and understand that you don't have to be perfect to be better. Sometimes silencing the negative voices in our heads is the first step to cutting unnecessary drama out of our lives, because lets face it... who even needs that nowadays?

Step Two: Time Out, Time Off
When life gets overwhelming, that's when you know that it's your time to take a step back; it's time out and time off simply put. Step back from the situation; whether it means taking a day off and staying at home in our pyjamas to recuperate or booking a spontaneous week long holiday in Bora Bora - lord only knows I could use one now. If we keep going the way we're going and pushing ourselves to the edge, it's only inevitable that we're going to disrupt our physical and mental health in the long run. Surround yourself with family and friends who will build you up.

Step Three: Build Your Ideal Day
Now that we're well rested, why don't you take some time to jot down the way you would prefer to handle tasks. Whether it's coming up with a morning routine, scheduling dinner with your gal pals or simply sitting down to do some blog work - build your ideal day from start to finish. If something doesn't make the cut, i.e. you're dreaming about a life without going to your current job, then perhaps you need to change your mindset and weigh up the pros and cons as to why you aren't being satisfied in your position.

Step Four: Get Going
Now that you have both your mind and body renewed, take some time to set new goals. It's so easy to lose track of our original goals, that it's an appealing process to start over again come Monday morning. It rejuvenates us when we can press reset. So get going, put your new goals in place where you can see and start on them, but ensure that you take time to break them down into manageable chunks - just like this post, create steps.

How are you finding balance this incoming month?

Monday, 26 June 2017

Becoming A Go-Getter

A Go-Getter; is someone who is energetic, determined to be successful and able to deal with new or challenging situations easily and there is truly no time like the present to create a better you. After-all it is Summer and they say Summer is the season of getting shit done, changing our mindsets and generally just being a bit more positive - perhaps this is because we've been getting better weather or that we've finally escaped the clutches of all commitments for the next 2 to 3 months, but whatever the case may be we are ready. We are ready to kick ass and ready to become the go-getting girls and boys we so long desire.

Becoming A Go-Getter

- Be Fearless:
We're all guilty of being our own worst enemy, but we need to stop talking ourselves out of opportunities just because we're scared of new things - be fearless. Go-getters believe in themselves! If you have confidence that you will achieve something, others will quickly follow suit and believe in you too. Learn to say 'I can' and 'I will' more often, I promise you won't regret it. Who knows, you could really go places if you just let go.

- Routine:
It's absolutely imperative that to become a go-getter, you have a routine. A routine means stability and allows you to keep on schedule. Put a routine in place that covers; exercise, social events, work commitments and me time - pre-planning this will mean you're less likely to break the cycle and thus will help you achieve your aims for that given week.

- Try Something New: 
Try something new - give that bold lipstick you've been too scared to try a test, or go wild and have your hair cut and coloured, let's just go all out! A different look will make you feel like a new person, and this will truly build your confidence when going out and getting exactly what you want. Let's nail those meetings at work this week.

- Treat Yourself:
Being a go-getter can seem like you have to be this pristine, perfect person. But a little indulgence never hurt anybody. Have a drink, get a takeaway, do something that makes you feel totally relaxed after another stressful week in the office. No one will pamper you, better than you.

Are you a go-getter? 

Friday, 23 June 2017

10 Songs To Keep You Motivated This June

Motivation is literally the difference between waking up before dawn to go for a run and lazing around the house all day in your pyjamas. It's the crucial element in setting and attaining goals and research has shown you can actually influence your own levels of motivation and self-control. Figure out what you want, power through those sporadic moments of wanting to throw in the towel and just start being who you want to be, what you want to be.

I'm sure if you read 'Where I've Been, Blogging & More', then you'll know that around the Easter holidays I found myself struggling to stick to a routine. I was feeling out of sorts, lazy, unmotivated and just generally tired - I needed a break and that's what I took. I went away, I had a think and I came back ready to kick ass. However... aside from just putting things into perspective; which was initially what I needed to do, I also spent an awful lot of time indulging in music. In-fact I spent numerous nights laying on-top of my bed, listening to the same playlists over and over again, as if in some daze - you'd be surprised what a song can make you think about.

So in order to keep myself and you motivated for the entirety of this month, I have compiled a list of '10 Songs To Keep You Motivated This June'. Who knows, you might just find something that inspires you to get going.

10 Songs To Keep You Motivated This June:

1. Sigala, Ella Eyre - Came Here For Love

2. Major Lazer, Travis Scott, Camila Cabello, Quavo - Know No Better

3. ALMA - Chasing Highs

4. Jax Jones, Demi Lovato, Stefflon Don - Instruction

5. Zak Abel - All I Ever Do (Is Say Goodbye)

6. Bakermat Ft. Kiesza - Don't Want You Back

7. Robin Schulz Ft. James Blunt - OK

8. Junge Junge - I Don't Love You (I'm Just Lonely)

9. DJ Khaled Ft. Rihanna, Bryson Tiller - Wild Thoughts

10. The Weeknd - Secrets

What have you been listening to this month? Do you have any suggestions?

Monday, 19 June 2017

Where I've Been, Blogging & More

I would be lying to myself and to you, if I didn't wholeheartedly admit that I've been trying to write this post for the entirety of a week, or-least procrastinating about it. Procrastinating to a point where I was at a complete an utter loss for words and let me tell you; this would be a first - but it does happen, it has happened and this is why I find myself taking quite sporadic breaks from blogging.

Initially when I started writing in January, it was just me and my notepad brimming with ideas. I had no real trouble staying motivated, well at-least until Easter. Don't get me wrong... nothing drastic happened in my personal life, I just became lazy and out of sorts. To be fair I've been struggling to get back into a routine since; both with blogging and with exercising... so, I decided to take a step back, think about where I wanted things to go, what motivated me to start in the first place and how I was going to get back to work - basically I did a massive overhaul and I'm finally back to my usual self.

Aside from taking a break from content creating, I also became an Auntie - yep. My sister Ashley gave birth to Jack William Kelly on the 10th of June 2017. A perfect, bouncy, baby boy at 9lbs 13ounces and we're all secretly doting on him. I mean it's pretty hard not to.

I also left my full-time job as a Food-To-Go Assistant and am set to take up a new role within the Perfume Shop this July. Frankly, I couldn't be more excited about the prospect of working for my favourite High Street store - who knows, I might just review more scents here on She In The Know.

Nevertheless as a means of getting back to work, I have compiled a short list of blog and personal related goals for June. Here goes...


Goal #1 - Routine 
It's imperative that I start working towards a routine and this doesn't just apply to blogging, but it also applies to exercising. A routine means stability and right now that's exactly what I need. I want to be consistent so, I'm going to return to my routine of blogging twice a week (Monday's and Friday's), alongside setting aside writing and photo-taking days.

Goal #2 - Work Towards Increasing Traffic & Social Media Reach
Whilst on my break I noticed that along with my views, my following was also decreasing and this was purely down to being inactive. I really want to focus more time and energy working towards increasing my traffic and social media reach - my blog simply wouldn't progress otherwise. I want to make more of an effort to join in Twitter Chats and Facebook Groups, I want to network network network this month.

Goal #3 - Be Active
Alongside working towards increasing my traffic and social media reach, I think being active is also important and it was time away from blogging that taught me this. I want to start being active on Twitter and Instagram more often than not, especially since these are two of my favourite platforms. Perhaps I could do some reading on ways to promote my content better and what times I should be posting at.


Goal #1 - Create A Consistent Workout Schedule / Be Active
If you've been following along with my fitness related posts here on She In The Know, then I'm sure you'll be well aware of my significant weight loss since January. However; this hasn't come without wanting to throw the towel in on several occasions. This June I want to create a consistent workout schedule and overall just be active. I mean it's been about two weeks since I even stepped on a treadmill or lifted a weight.

Goal #2 - Drink More Water
I decided it was best I carry this goal over from last month, despite drastically cutting down on fizzy drinks this year, I'm still not drinking enough water. For the rest of the month I want to make more of a conservative effort to drink the suggested 2 litres a day - it'll be interesting to see how my body will adjust to this or if I'll even manage to stick with it. 

Goal #3 - Work On Getting A Better Nights Sleep
I want to say goodbye to late nights once and for all - for my own sanity. I want to start working towards getting a better nights sleep each night, for the remainder of this month. I want to be tucked up in bed by 11 pm, with my phone off. Perhaps this will help with my motivation situation.

Have you taken a break recently? How did you find returning to work?

Monday, 5 June 2017

Habits You Will Need To Let Go Of If You Want To Be Happier This Summer

When was the last time you were truly happy? When was the last time you had an uninterrupted moment of complete positivity? Small moments of happiness and pure positivity can come along in the middle of the week, when you're riding shotgun in the front seat of your boyfriends car, listening to The Kooks on the radio or simply having a G and T on the front porch. These moments are great, but often illusive - unless you're a real go-getter and can manage to turn negative thinking into positive action 24/7.

It's really important that we remember just how much we deserve to be happy, so - here are a few bad habits you need to let go of if you want to be happier this Summer.

- Not Being Your True Self:
Stay true to yourself; don't agree just for the sake of agreeing. The younger you are the harder this one can be, because somehow we seem to think that to be friends with people we have to like the same things, but this isn't always the case. Be proud of who you are as a person, you are an individual and there is nobody quite like you - literally. You shouldn't have to change you to be successful or liked by anyone.

- Caring What Other People Think:
Unfortunately not everyone is going to like you, just like not everyone will be willing to support you. If you listen and care about what every single person you met thought about you, you would never be truly happy. Cut people out of your life who haven't supported you and try not to dwell too much on it. Once you stop caring, you will start living.

- Trying To Take Control:
Not everything can be controlled. Some things may be just too far out of reach. I know that can be hard to hear, if you're anything like me you will like to stay on top of everything, but sometimes you just have to let someone else take lead, this will help ease the pressure and allow extra room for an outside perspective.

- Dependent On Others:
This is one that I've had to learn personally and I think it's a lesson you learn in your late teens/early twenties, to stop being dependent on others. You learn to be alone and to love yourself before you love others. It's really important that you can make yourself happy whether that's in your career, family life or in a new relationship, no one person can determine whether you're happy or not.

What habits will you be trying to let go of this Summer?

Friday, 2 June 2017

5 Tips To Help You Fight The Fear Of Failure

As an adult and teen (for the most part), I had developed a habit of feeling as though I genuinely couldn't do things. I felt paralyzed by a sense that I wasn't capable, I wasn't capable of doing what I was required to at High School or College and that I just simply couldn't achieve what I needed or wanted to if I were to pursue a career in Healthcare. It's quite ironic really, given I have recently applied for University - but back in 2012, 'I can't' was a staple part of my vocabulary and remains so at times.

I have to credit my parents here; for their persistence over the years. Every time I lost belief, lost hope, they have always been there to push me on, to show me that I can and that the world is most definitely my oyster. I put my feelings of incapability down to the fear of failure and the fear of imperfection - but there are ways to cope with it.

5 Tips To Help You Fight The Fear Of Failure:

- Rome Wasn't Built In A Day: 
Often we can look at a task or challenge ahead and feel blinded by the pure scale of it and that's a big hurdle on its own to overcome. Take GCSE's for instance; they are such a challenge, but actually in reality... when you break it down, break time into small manageable deadlines and forget looking at the bigger picture, you'll find it much easier to make that start and more often than not, starting can be the hardest part. Remember that Rome wasn't built in a day.

- Stop Comparing Yourself:
The fear of failure can often stem from comparison of others; stop worrying that you're not good enough in the context of something or someone else, stop reviewing your successes versus another's... It's negative, unhelpful and absolutely irrelevant. The sooner you learn to stop comparing yourself to others, the more energy you can then channel into yourself and your own work - it will be truly liberating, especially when you see results.

- Perspective:
Majority of the time, when I look back at my 'I can't' days, I realize that I had lost perspective. I had become so wrapped up in my own stresses and panic that I simply couldn't see what needed to be done. You should take things gradually - what's the worst that could happen if I did fail? Having perspective will help ease the pressure, the stress and the panic.

- Learn From Your Mistakes:
Failure is all part of growing up, it's a learning curve that helps you grow and evolve as a person. You should accept your failures and learn from them, but remember to move on. Too often in society we see leaders fail and then give up... this sets a bad example for young individuals. This could all be a part of your journey to success.

- Well Done/Congratulations:
Positive reinforcement works. When we do something we felt we couldn't at the start, we feel overjoyed, proud, perhaps even beside ourselves. That positive reaction reinforces the mind to think 'I can' and 'I will', so the more you overcome, the more you can reinforce that positive sentiment in your mind. You should be able to say well done to yourself without feeling bad, you should know how hard you have worked, the obstacles you have overcome and the self doubt you have proved wrong. Congratulate yourself and in bigger situations treat yourself to a reward i.e. a new handbag, because I know I certainly will.

Can you relate to this post? Do you have moments of self deprecation? 
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