Monday, 16 October 2017 / Northern Ireland, UK

6 Life Skills I Want To Master In My Twenties

Since turning twenty-one last month, it's become apparent that the future is literally all I have been able to think about. It's quite funny how deceiving a twelve year old's mind can be; because I can recall all those conversations about how I'd have went to University by now, graduated, landed my dream job, be in a long-term relationship and possibly even started looking into purchasing my first home before the mere age of twenty-two. Truth be told, I haven't done any of these things yet and I'm not sure when I will, but something tells me that it's okay and what I'm doing right now, is honestly the best thing for me.

Goals take time and that's why I'm hoping to master these six life skills in my twenties.

I say this lightly, because although Matthew is very much the chef in our relationship... he has the patience of a saint and has been teaching me how to cook the entire summer break. Whether it's a family meal or a Spaghetti Bolognese for lunch, I really want to get a few recipes under my belt, I want to be able to experiment more with my meals, which means saying farewell to my trusty pot noodles and cheese toasties for a while. I'd also love to give baking a whirl.

Raise your hand; if you have ever found yourself aimlessly scrolling through Instagram, Twitter or Facebook during an awkward social situation. I know I am absolutely, 100% guilty - especially now as a student. This is why in my twenties I want to learn how to spark up interesting conversations, I want to learn how to make small talk - you would be surprised what being brave can do for you.

Self-care is important; anyone who tells you differently doesn't know it yet. This is why in my twenties I want to learn how best to self-care, I want to know which foods will nurture my body and which foods won't. I want to learn the importance of exercising daily and how to come to terms with my imperfections. I want to put some time aside for my mental and physical health and in general I want to know when I should be switching off.

Our twenties are a time for exploration and development; whether it is an academic, personal or career driven choice - it's important that we understand everyone gets rejected and that its okay. Some things will be made to work out and some things just simply won't. I want to learn how to continue moving forward, I want to learn how to deal with criticism and rejection.

Whether it's at work, out with a friend or even in the comfort of your own home - you should never let anyone make you feel small. I want to learn how to voice my opinions in a controlled manner, on topics I know and feel passionately about. I want to learn how to make important life decisions and how best to stand up for myself.

Writing or essentially blogging - has always been a long-term dream of mine, it's this dream that has continued to push me forward; no matter how many people have told me that it's unrealistic and silly of me to rely on it. Yes, it may take months... possibly even years to get to where I would like to be, but anything is possible if you put your mind to it and that is something that has been instilled in me from childhood. I need to remind myself more that being in my twenties isn't a race and by developing a long view I'll have the ability to see beyond the immediate set-backs and see them more as small detours or humps along the way.

What life skills do you want to master in your twenties?

Monday, 9 October 2017 / Northern Ireland, UK

Who Are You Obsessed With?

OBSESSED by Calvin Klein is a modern day re-invention of the iconic, heavy and then sexy scent known as OBSESSION - curated in the nineties. OBSESSED for Women, Eau de Parfum is for the everyday woman, who oozes the up-most confidence and isn't afraid to go after what, or whom... she wants. After-all we are all #obsessedwith someone.

Born from Mario Sorrenti's love and obsession for then eighteen year old Kate Moss, when the pair shot the iconic Calvin Klein fragrance campaign in 1993, it was an idea radical in its simplicity; instead of fabricating romance for marketing's sake, what if you document it? Klein himself tapped the rising photographer and muse - then inseperable and in love - sending the couple off to Jost Van Dyke, in the British Virgin Islands, where they camped out at a beachfront ruin for 10 days. Sorrenti describes a moment drenched in freedom and possibility - "We had nothing to lose.".

OBSESSED for Women really comes into its own when in contact with OBSESSED for Men - a perfect gift, for a perfect yet passionate couple. It is sensuality, bottled. It's a warming, seductive fragrance - one that should be worn on a date night and one that I find I have personally become obsessed with.

Opening with sharp citrus notes, the perfume unfolds; mixing desire and memory, masculinity and femininity, past and present. White lavender is at the heart of the fragrance; a traditionally masculine note used in men's aftershave, blended with creamy musk to envelop the wearer in a sensuous warmth from the base. You will instantly fall for it.

Launched in July 2017, OBSESSED has become a new must-have and I am loving its fresh, modern day take on an absolute cult favourite.

Who are you obsessed with?

Monday, 2 October 2017 / Northern Ireland, UK

Where I've Been, Blogging & More.

I would be lying to myself and to you, if I didn't wholeheartedly admit that I'd somewhat fallen out of love with writing and being a blogger as such this summer. I felt as though my words were becoming forced, uninspired and generic, so much so that I've been trying to write this post for the entirety of a month, or at-least procrastinating about it to a certain extent.

Initially when I started blogging in January 2017, I had been planning to study a foundation degree in counselling and this is why majority of my posts were advice based and not so much about me or the things I was finding interesting, but more so about someone else's problems. It's quite funny actually, as time progressed I'd found myself gradually drifting from the idea of running my own counselling firm, to running my own photography business and working in marketing full-time. I'd even hm'd and ha'd about why on earth I didn't just study these in the first place... yet it took stepping away from blogging for me to realize this, because I knew I was struggling to keep up, to keep my head above water. I wasn't driven to write anymore, I would spend more time at work than at home working on my blog and when I was on my laptop, I'd avoid my dashboard at all costs - I'd more or less thrown in the towel and there was absolutely no looking back.

Since stepping back from blogging and content creating, I have become an Auntie, I have started working in the Perfume Shop on a part-time basis, I have returned to College to study NCFE Level 2 Photography and OCN NI Level 2 Digital Marketing and I have finally fallen back in love with photo-taking, writing and advertising. It's honestly as if someone has come along and lit a fire under my ass, because I am absolutely itching to write, to work.

So; in order to get into a routine as such... I'm going to be blogging once a week - every Monday, I have completely and utterly pulled apart my layout, I have removed everything from Facebook, Instagram and Twitter and I am now looking at a literal clean slate to kick-start October.

I can't wait to get started.
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